The Victim

I was reflecting on a recent interaction I had with one of the neighborhood kids who always plays the victim. He is an only child, a good kid, with good parents, though he is always innocent of others accusations.

There have been numerous occasions I have actually seen him in the act of doing something inappropriate (without his knowledge) … he denies it, blames others, makes excuses, and will even put on some tears of being “picked on”.

This is a common kid situation (if you have kids you understand) but don’t we as adults play the victim from time to time… it just feels better to play innocent, blame others and make excuses. That way we do not have to take ownership of our crap… we can continue to ignore issues.

We get pulled over and get a ticket… the cop was mean we say - forgetting to add we were doing 50 over and nearly ran over an elderly women crossing the street to pick up her new dentures, the boss is just a jerk – but we forget to add we were way under on sales goals and notoriously run 30 minutes late, our spouse is not sexually responsive – yet all we do is sit and watch sports when we get home from a 12 hour workday.

I’ve always appreciated when people have a true or at least honest self concept… they are able to say, “I deserve to be jumped on by my boss… I have been slacking and not working very hard… I needed a good kick in the pants”. “People treat me bad because I am a jerk most the time…”, “I deserved the ticket, I was speeding and could have really caused a bad accident”, “My wife is nagging on me for good reason, and I’m an idiot”.

So, try being brutally honest with yourself…

“You will know the truth, and the truth will make you free” - Jesus

What Church Would Jesus Attend (W.C.W.J.A)

So, the question of the hour; what church would Jesus attend if He lived in the Kansas City area?

Would it be Olathe Life Fellowship? Honestly, to answer that in a way that would exclude any other church would reflect spiritual and biblical ignorance on the part of the person saying it!

Though, I can say with confidence that since Jesus (God) unlike us, is omni-present, meaning He can be everywhere at once, is attending many churches here in Kansas City!

To say that “my church is better than your church” is childish. But we can say that “my church is different then your church” and be correct.

I would say the real question is; is Jesus attending your church? A follow up question then would be; how do I know if He is or not?

1) Is the Bible taught?
2) Is Jesus talked about?
3) Are people encouraged to follow Christ? (now I will say that many of us come to the table with pre-conceived ideas of what this means… i.e. we must have an altar call each week… or we must invite people to repeat the sinners prayer… or we must do the sign of the cross on our chest, or whatever you or I have been taught…)
4) Are people encouraged to love people as Christ has commanded?
5) Are people loved and accepted, right where they are in life?

And really the ultimate question; is Jesus present in your life?

Matthew 18:20 "Where two or three have come together in my name, I am there among them."


Final thought: I do know this; Jesus would spend 99% of His time OUTSIDE the church ministering to people... which is just what He did when He was physically here on earth.

Inner-city


Matthew 25:40 Jesus said, "Truly I say to you, to the extent that you did it to one of these brothers of Mine, even the least of them, you did it to Me."

Yesterday me, Brandon and Michele met with Luther who is an inner-city pastor at Bridge of Hope Community Church in Kansas City, Kansas. His church is right in the “hood” (his words). He drove us around and I was moved by what I saw. Much poverty, corruption, and decay… and right here in our backyard.

I felt like I was in a third-world country at times… while we were on our tour I saw a couple people getting arrested, a possible drug deal, some prostitutes (teenagers) roaming, and he didn’t even take us to the real bad areas because he said, “it’s unsafe…”.

I think sometimes we have our heads in the sand (those living in rich suburbia) regarding the brokenness all around us…the average income where we visited is $16,000 a year, average education level was 7th grade…

We’re looking to partner with Bride of Hope Community Church to help them change their community!

Real life… right here in Kansas City!

Hangin


Remember this summer to spend quality time with your family… it’s what makes life so sweet.

I was thinking about my kids the other day and that someday they may hit that stage in life (teenage years) when they don’t want to hang with me as much… I hope this doesn’t happen, but from everything I know (working with teens for 15 years) tells me it is a real possibility. So, since now they do want to hang with me… I hang!

So all you parents out there, start hangin with your kiddos as much as possible, they are a treasure to cherish!

Shalom!

Hell - pt 2


Hell isn't funny, but I am sorry, I just loved this little picture... so if it offends you... I apologize!

Here are the HELL scriptures in the New Testament (at least the search I did gave these): I will be honest here and say I do not understand them all, nor do I claim to have all the answers. There are a few things I do know forsure... and that is that:

1) God doesn't want anyone to go to Hell!
2) God is more merciful and gracious then we think!
3) God's love is greater then the powers of Hell.


Here is a scripture I so appreciate - Romans 8:38 "And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love."

Matthew 5:22But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.
Matthew 5:29And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell. Matthew 5:30And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.
Matthew 10:28And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.
Matthew 11:23And thou, Capernaum, which art exalted unto heaven, shalt be brought down to hell: for if the mighty works, which have been done in thee, had been done in Sodom, it would have remained until this day.
Matthew 16:18And I say also unto thee, That thou art Peter, and upon this rock I will build my church; and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it.
Matthew 18:9And if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: it is better for thee to enter into life with one eye, rather than having two eyes to be cast into hell fire.
Matthew 23:15Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye compass sea and land to make one proselyte, and when he is made, ye make him twofold more the child of hell than yourselves. Matthew 23:33Ye serpents, ye generation of vipers, how can ye escape the damnation of hell?
Mark 9:43And if thy hand offend thee, cut it off: it is better for thee to enter into life maimed, than having two hands to go into hell, into the fire that never shall be quenched:
Mark 9:45And if thy foot offend thee, cut it off: it is better for thee to enter halt into life, than having two feet to be cast into hell, into the fire that never shall be quenched:
Mark 9:47And if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out: it is better for thee to enter into the kingdom of God with one eye, than having two eyes to be cast into hell fire:
Luke 10:15And thou, Capernaum, which art exalted to heaven, shalt be thrust down to hell.
Luke 12:5But I will forewarn you whom ye shall fear: Fear him, which after he hath killed hath power to cast into hell; yea, I say unto you, Fear him.
Luke 16:23And in hell he lift up his eyes, being in torments, and seeth Abraham afar off, and Lazarus in his bosom.
Acts 2:27Because thou wilt not leave my soul in hell, neither wilt thou suffer thine Holy One to see corruption.
Acts 2:31He seeing this before spake of the resurrection of Christ, that his soul was not left in hell, neither his flesh did see corruption.
James 3:6And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.
2 Peter 2:4For if God spared not the angels that sinned, but cast them down to hell, and delivered them into chains of darkness, to be reserved unto judgment;
Revelation 1:18I am he that liveth, and was dead; and, behold, I am alive for evermore, Amen; and have the keys of hell and of death.
Revelation 6:8And I looked, and behold a pale horse: and his name that sat on him was Death, and Hell followed with him. And power was given unto them over the fourth part of the earth, to kill with sword, and with hunger, and with death, and with the beasts of the earth.
Revelation 20:13And the sea gave up the dead which were in it; and death and hell delivered up the dead which were in them: and they were judged every man according to their works.
Revelation 20:14And death and hell were cast into the lake of fire. This is the second death.

Hell

Now here’s a topic for discussion! Hell. Is it a real place? Who goes there? How to NOT go there? What does the Bible actually say about it? What did Jesus say about it?

I remember growing up to believe that “only us Pentecostals were going to avoid the flames of Hell. And everyone else was going to burn forever.” I of course no longer believe that! Thank God! But that is what I was taught and believed for many years.

But what is the truth about Hell? Can we fully know the mystery that surrounds it?

I want to hear from you; what do you say about it? Only if you are brave enough to put your thoughts out there for the world to see and critique! It takes guts to say what you think… and NO Anonymous responses please, only those who are brave enough to put their name to what they say will be approved!

Please answer the following questions so we can discuss:

1) Do you think it’s a real place?
2) Who goes to Hell?

Once you answer those questions I believe we’ll be able to have a great discussion!

A Gay Question


An email we received... thought you'd be interested in reading.

Dear Pastor Timmy,

I've enjoyed your online sermons. I just want to clarify for me though... you do believe homosexuality is sin and needs forgiveness right? And yet we are to love the sinner right?

Just checking.

Thanks for listening and I hope to hear from you a simple response on your view of homosexuality.

Rebecca
Raytown, Missouri


Here is my response:

Dear Rebecca,

Thank you and I am glad you enjoy watching our messages on line! That means a lot to us.

Your question is a tough question with no "simple" answer actually! I believe that the act of homosexuality is sin, or NOT God's ideal. And by God's "ideal" I mean not what he intended. God intended for ONE MAN and ONE WOMEN... hence Adam AND Eve.

But I DO NOT believe that being homosexual (or having homosexual desires) is a sin. Just like I believe being a heterosexual who desires many partners not a sin, but if you are a heterosexual and YOU have any partner other than your spouse - then it is sin. Make sense?

I do not believe that our sexual orientation is a sin, but what we do with our sexual desire can be.

I have a good Christian friend who is homosexual, and has been ever since he can remember... though he is not active. He has prayed and prayed and prayed, gone to counseling, etc, etc to have his "gayness" removed (his wording)... yet he remains attracted to the same sex. But, he remains single, and alone. Very tough! Very sad!

Imagine with me for a second here... imagine that Homosexuality was the norm. And in the beginning God created Adam and Mark... and you Rebecca were different then 96% of society... and you had desires that you could not explain for men... but, you know it's wrong, at least that is what you've been told... "You can't love a man Rebecca, you must love a woman". Wouldn't that be a sad life?

My heart hurts for those who struggle with homosexuality! There are no "simple" responses to tough issues... especially if you know someone struggling with this issue.

Truth: If we are honest, not a one of us is truly living God's ideal! We are all sinners, who desperately need Christ! And as Christ-followers our response to anyone facing this issue or any other issue we may face is LOVE!

I hope this brings some clarity to you.

Thanks!

Sincerely Yours,

Timmy Gibson

Seeing Grey


I just finished a book I highly recommend, Seeing Grey in a World of Black and White by Adam Hamilton.

I liked the book for several reasons:

1) I have the privilege of knowing Adam personally and he is a man who really loves God.
2) He touches the issues facing the church that are in my opinion critical to its survival and if handled correctly will (to use an old Pentecostal word) bring “revival” to the church.
3) He is neither radically Conservative nor radically Liberal… but radically Centered.

Quote:

“Though we cannot think alike, may we not love alike? May we not be of one heart, though we are not of one opinion? Without all doubt, we may. Herein all the children of God may unite, notwithstanding these smaller differences.” - John Wesley

Seeing Grey in a World of Black and White, for me really helps to clarify the passion I have in my heart, which is for there to be unity amongst God’s people. There is room at the table for us all who are followers of Christ. And no-one has the corner market on truth, and if you think you do… you are mistaken! But, I do believe that each of us understands a portion of the truth and when we all come together we are whole.

The book will challenge your thinking, and there will be some things you may not agree with… guess what? That is okay! I encourage you to read books that stretch your thinking, and even challenge your thinking. The worst thing to stunt growth is to only read books that further support what you already know and believe.

Grow!

W.W.L.D.


What Would Love Do?

Matthew 22:36-40
"Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?" 37Jesus replied: " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.'38This is the first and greatest commandment. 39And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' 40All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments."

If you read my blog you may have noticed I often talk about this subject; LOVE! But I just can't get away from it. I guess it's because if those five verses were the only verses in the Bible... it would be enough! And, if Christians the world over would strive to live them out... it would be enough!

I am sure many of you remember the popularity of the WWJD deal… the What Would Jesus Do? saying. I thought that was okay, but I think a better thought is to ask what would love do… and if we did what love would do, we of course would do what Jesus would do, for He walked in perfect love!

We talk about going “deeper” or getting “spiritual meat”… well let's sink our teeth into LOVING PEOPLE and we'll go as deep as it is possible to go!

But many times we want everything other than that… because it’s hard, and takes a sacrifice on our part.

My Challenge:

With every situation you face, ask yourself; What Would Love Do… and then do that!