I am 44, and they say a mid-life crisis
happens sometime between ages 40 to 60. I had never giving it much thought until a year
ago, and I wouldn't call it a “midlife crisis” for me anyway, but more of a ‘midlife
reflection’. I find myself thinking about the future far more than I ever did.
Like; what am I doing with my life, how am I making a difference, am I leaving
a legacy, things aren't quit going like I had envisioned (not bad,
just not what I thought) I think often about the retirement plan I don’t have, and
the kid’s college fund I don’t have. I'm thankful I have a lot of happiness in
my life that helps to balance out the things I wish were different.
We have all heard those horror stories of
people making crazy decisions during a “midlife crisis” and ruining their life,
and the lives of their kids. And that’s
no good! So I guess if nothing else I am blogging this to encourage you who,
like me, are in the midst of a “midlife reflection” time, please don’t do
anything stupid! Keep your head screwed on straight; keep doing what you know
is right. And if you don’t know what is right (common during this time) confide
in a trusted level-headed friend to help you not completely throw your life
away in the middle of an emotional storm. I would even encourage professional
counseling to help talk through the things you are wrestling with if necessary.
Almost every person I talk to who is my age,
they are thinking about the same things. So it’s not some tragic time, but
rather just a phase in life when you start to realize you aren't 18 anymore,
and that you don’t have your whole life ahead of you. Most people in their 40’s
have lived over half their life and are thinking, “crap, I better get my sh--
If you are a young person just getting
started in life I can tell you one thing, and that is if you will make plans
now for retirement, kid’s college, etc etc. it will save you from much of what
I talked about here. The good thing for me is that the things I did invest in in the first half of my life are bringing me great joy today; my marriage, my kids, my faith and living a
purposeful life! If I didn't have those things, I am not sure what I would do.
Live life so you will have very few, if any regrets! You'll be glad you did!
I want to accomplish one thing in my life, besides being a great husband, a great father and having a great head of hair! And that one thing is to help people have healthier happier relationships!