2.) Focus on partner’s actions and how those make you FEEL.
DON’T: Criticize your partner’s personality or character.
DON’T SAY: “You shouldn’t feel that way,” or even worse you “shouldn’t let that bother you,” or “you should get over it,” … not good!
DON’T: Complain at times when your partner is distracted by pressing matters such as a deadline or caring for small children. Or in the middle of a party! Or while at dinner with friends!
4.) Tell your partner about your NEEDS and DESIRES.
DON’T: Expect your partner to mind-read, to guess your needs and desires.
*Material Taken from Dr. John Gottman's book , 7 Principles for a Healthy Relationship!