2013 Hanky Panky Challenge

The Hanky Panky challenge is a challenge for those in a committed relationship to engage in some kind of “hanky panky” every day for the entire month of February (28 Days). Now, I looked up the definition of “hanky panky” and it was not the definition I was hoping for … so I thought I should clarify what I mean by "hanky panky".


Here is what I have learned over the years of issuing this "Hanky Panky Challenge" to couples. For the guys it means one thing, and for the girls it may mean yet another, so let this blog be your guide. I am encouraging those in a committed relationship to take the month of February and focus on their relationship by creating moments of intentional intimacy “hanky panky” with each other every day, a total of 28 days. It's a challenge in itself just making time to connect every day! It’s really about making your relationship a priority. So whether you connect purely for physical intimacy (intercourse - hopefully no diagrams are needed here) which most dudes are probably hoping for, OR lots of other relationship building activities, such as, but not limited to:
  1. Kissing
  2. Touching
  3. Tickling
  4. Massages
  5. Foot rubs
  6. Bubble bath together
  7. Listening to Kenny-G
  8. Washing each other’s hair
  9. Pillow talk
  10. Praying together
  11. Read romantic book
  12. Watch Dr. Phil – sorry, just kidding!
  13. Watching a romantic movie (not Texas Chainsaw)
  14. Cooking dinner together (tip: Dude, wash the dishes!)
  15. Long talks
  16. Long walks
  17. Write a meaningful note to one another and read aloud
  18. Write a song and sing to each other
  19. Share a bottle of Wine while talking (do this naked, and don’t touch for an hour, so fun! )
  20. Go on a romantic date (Do what you did to capture her heart, and do those things again to keep her heart)
Side note here: Many times this is what I see missing in people's relationship; everything that I have mentioned above is forgotten or even completely absent after a year or so of being together. Simply, we take each other for granted, we are too busy (or we feel we are too busy) to make real time for building and working on our relationship. Yet when I talk to couples about their schedule I see that there are many opportunities in their “busy schedule” for intimacy, but it’s filled up with TV, Sports, Hobbies, Kids stuff, friends, facebook, and just a lot of busy-stuff.

So there it is, the Hanky Panky Challenge ... I hope you take the challenge and commit to making your relationship a priority for the entire month of February. Comment here on this post or on my facebook.com/timmygibson or follow on twitter @TimmyKC... oh yea, by the way ... I promise at the end of the 28 days your relationship will be better than ever!

Happy Hanky Panky!