To me this is
the biggest and most critical thing in keeping yourself from an affair. Live as
close to the one who is Holy! And this seems strange that I’d say this writing
about “Pastors” but even we pastors can stray away from Jesus. Weird I know,
but we can get so busy doing the work of the Lord and forget the LORD of the
work. Your relationship with Jesus is the #1 most important thing in living a
2)Work On Your Marriage
I speak on
this all the time … but a good marriage takes work, so work hard on it. It
doesn’t happen just because you walked an isle and said some, “I dos and I
wills and I promise” it takes so much more than that. Do it! I highly recommend
couples read at least a book a year on marriage, attend a marriage series at
church or seminar or do a marriage retreat once a year. Anything you can do for
“continuing education” on the subject of marriage!
3)Work On Yourself
and body! Take time for yourself. Make sure you are not wearing yourself out!
Make sure you are getting rest, exercising, reading, taking time off,
journaling, etc. Not only that, but if you have issues, which you do, work
through them with a counselor, or close wise friend.
You know what
your boundaries are, come on! If you find someone at your work attractive you
can’t go to lunch with them every day! Come on, you are smarter than that! “Oh
but we work together!” So, why don’t you go to lunch with the weird ugly
person? Be smart. Don’t put yourself in situations that could compromise all
that you believe! Know and understand that we are ALL susceptible to the lures
of an affair, and people who feel they are not, are MOST vulnerable! The Bible
says that “pride comes before a fall.” Be humble, smart and make wise
5)Have Real Accountability Partners
accountability partners! Not suedo-accountability partners! Have people of the
same sex that you are completely honest and vulnerable with about your every
struggle, temptation, fear, dream, passion, etc.
6)Don’t Look at Porn
this one falls under “protect yourself” and “live close to Jesus” but I felt it
needed to be a stand-alone. I truly believe Porn is poison. It is addictive. It
is something most men struggle with, and all men are tempted with on a regular
basis. The bottom line is that men are visual, and they want to see women
naked. Again, it’s important to “protect yourself” however you need to keep you
from looking at Porn. I use X3watch.com, I am sure there are others out there.
To Be Continued ... It's About You
I want to accomplish one thing in my life, besides being a great husband, a great father and having a great head of hair! And that one thing is to help people have healthier happier relationships!