2011 Hanky Panky Challenge

The Hanky Panky challenge is for married couples to engage in some kind of hanky panky everyday for the entire month of February. Now, I looked up the definition of “hanky panky” and it was not the definition I was hoping for … so I thought I should clarify what I mean by hanky panky.


Here is what I have learned over the years of issuing this "Hanky Panky Challenge" ... for the guys it means one thing, and for the girls it may mean yet another, so let this blog be your guide. We are encouraging married couples to take the month of February to focus on their marriage by creating moments of intentional intimacy “hanky panky” with each other everyday, a total of 28 days. It's a challenge in itself just making time to connect everyday! So whether you connect for purely sexual intimacy (intercourse - hopefully no diagrams are needed here) which most dudes are probably hoping for – you are welcome guys!, or lots of kissing, touching, tickling, loving massages, foot rubs, hand massages, taking a bath together while listening to soft Jazz, washing each others hair, pillow talk, praying together (for each other and your family), read the book of the Bible entitled Song of Songs, reading a romantic book together, watch Dr. Phil – sorry, just kidding … watching a romantic movie (not Texas Chainsaw), cooking dinner together, talking a walk together, write a meaningful note to one another and read aloud, go on a romantic date … basically go back to what you did when you first met and fell so madly in love with each other! (I realize that was a massive run-on sentence!)

Side note here; many times this is what I see failing in marriages; everything that I have mentioned above is many times absent after a year of marriage. Simply, we take each other for granted, we are too busy (or we feel we are too busy). Yet when I talk to couples about their schedule I see that there are many many opportunities in their “busy schedule” for intimacy, but it’s filled up with TV, Sports, Hobbies, Kids stuff, facebook, and just a lot of worthless busy-work.

So there it is, the Hanky Panky Challenge ... I hope you take the challenge and comment here on this post or on my facebook ... oh yea, by the way ... I promise at the end of the 28 days your relationship with be better than ever!

I will blog more … I just had to rush to get something up here so if you heard something on TV or Radio you’ll know what it is all about!

Happy Hanky Panky!