I am asked, "how far is too far" as it relates to sexual intimacy between singles almost weekly. So I figured I might as well share my response here.
This is not an easy question to address ... and definitely not an easy ANSWER to live. I wish I could say that I never went too far in my dating days, but unfortunately I did ... and I do regret it. (many times pastors won't tell you that ... they just say "don't do it ... wait til you are married... which are all good things to say I suppose, but a touch hypocritical don't ya think when they do not add, "I couldn't or didn't save myself for marriage." Anyway ... a personal frustration for me.)
I too believe that saving yourself for your ONE TRUE love ... your wife/husband.
But let me answer the question; How far is too far? with a question.
How far would you want your future wife/husband to go with whoever they are currently dating? I know, I know, that question bits! And it should!
Do you want your future husband/wife to have gone to 4th base with every person he/she dated? How far would you want them to go?
Then I suggest you follow the golden rule: do unto others what you would have them do unto you!
Have fun, just don't go too far!