I Get To ...


I was just thinking today how "lucky" or some would say "blessed" I am!

I GET TO ...

... wake up every morning and make breakfast for the coolest kids ever ... mine!
... sleep in a warm bed with a beautiful woman!
... work with friends!
... pastor the greatest church in all the known world!
... serve with the most wonderful people in the galaxy (at least our Galaxy)!
... live in a country where I can worship God freely!
... walk ... see ... hear ... smell...

When I actually begin looking at my life in light of the rest of the world, I have all the reasons in the world to be THANKFUL and GRATEFUL ... and I am!

Hanky Panky Challenge - DAY THREE


It's so much more challenging to "connect everyday with your spouse" when you are so busy! Have you noticed that? Between running kids to practice, science fairs, vocal practice, friends houses, and work ... where do you find the time?

This is why we offer the Hanky Panky Challenge; connecting each and everyday with your spouse isn't going to just happen ... it must be intentional! Something we PLAN, and then EXECUTE!

Here is my two-cents on how to make sure you are connecting each and everyday:

1) REMOVE excess from your day
- TV time, facebook time, youtube time, etc. Each of those things are not bad in and of themselves, but when they take away from things that are more important, then it's a problem.

2) REPLACE wasted time with spouse time - Every couple must figure a way that works for them ... we are all different, there is no cookie-cutter approach to building strong relationships. We have a rule at our house; no computer stuff after 7PM ... it's family time from 7PM to 9PM. And we abide by that, then after we tuck the kids in bed we have time to talk (or whatever we want to do!)

3) PUT it in the calendar - put that special "connection" time in your calendar and do not let anything get in the way of that connection.

I hope that helps you ... please do share with us how the Hanky Panky Challenge is going for you and your spouse! God bless and Happy Hanky Panky!

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The Traveler's Gift


This modern morality tale by gifted writer and speaker Andy Andrews teaches seven fundamental strategies for creating a successful life. The Traveler's Gift reminds me of the bestselling books by Og Mandino (I recommend them highly!), this unique narrative is a blend of entertaining fiction, allegory, and inspiration, with a hint of self-help. You'll be front-row in one man's journey of a lifetime.

David Ponder is at a crossroads. Having lost his job and the will to live, he has been supernaturally selected to travel through time, gathering wisdom for future generations. Visits to historical figures such as Abraham Lincoln, King Solomon, and Anne Frank yield the Seven Fundamentals for Success that will impact the entire world. A visit to the future reveals the result of David's journey, the fruits of his labor.

Ultimately, like David, readers will see how the perspective of our own circumstances is dramatically altered when we glimpse the "big picture" of life.

Here’s a summary of Andy Andrews’ Seven Decisions and just a sampling of the examples he generously provides in Mastering the Seven Decisions:

1. Be responsible – Make a decision.

Remember President Harry Truman, and that famous sign he kept on his desk “The Buck Stops Here.” He signed his name on a single sheet of paper that authorized the decision to drop the atomic bomb on two cities in order to end World War.

2. Seek Wisdom – Listen to the guidance that is offered from people you can trust.

Napoleon lost at Waterloo because he failed to listen to his troops who said that you can’t send them into battle without a bucket of nails, which were used to plug the torch holes of the cannons that were seized and render them useless. Without the nails, the British were able to get their cannons back and fire them at Napoleon’s forces, and win the battle for Waterloo.

3. Be a Person of Action – Seize the moment.

Bill Gates decided to drop out of school at Harvard University to build a computer system that would one day become Microsoft.

Joshua Lawrence Chamberlin, a school teacher, out of ammunition against overwhelming odds, led a bayonet charge against fully armed Confederate troops, and won the battle of Gettysburg.

4. Have a Decided Heart- Ignore rejection, let your passion be your guide.


Mark Victor Hansen and Jack Canfield’s book was rejected by over fifty publishers before Peter Vegso at Health Communications decided to take a chance on them. The Chicken Soup for the Soul book series has now sold over 100 million copies.

Thomas Edison tried and failed over 1,000 times, before creating the incandescent light bulb.

Joan of Arc was only seventeen years old when she led the armies of France against the English. The military leaders cringed at the thought of a peasant girl leading the men of France. “Immediately. Now. Now, we must take them now. I intend to strike at the heart of the barricade,” she said. “If you go in, not a man will follow you,” they told her. “I won’t be looking back,” she replied.

5. Choose to be happy – Put a smile on your face or you won’t be the one chosen.

Consider what employers do. If you have two prospective employees with the same educational background, and equal experience, who are about the same age, and even look and dress very similar. One of them gripes and complains, and the other one smiles and is happy.

Or how about the husband who’s jealous of the way his wife treated their dog. Day after day, year after year, the wife would come home from work and the dog would run to the door, smiling, tail wagging happily, giving wholehearted, devoted attention, and lavish affection to the wife, every time she came home. And how did the wife treat the dog? Oh baby, come to mama… good to see you! Oh, I love you, too.

Lesson learned? If you want to be treated at least as well as the dog, then maybe you should take some lessons.

Ain’t that the truth!

6. Forgive! Forget Anger Management – Use Anger Resolution

Joshua Chamberlin, who led that famous charge at Waterloo, was chosen by President Abraham Lincoln to accept the Confederate surrender at Appomattox. There, Chamberlin stunned the world with a show of forgiveness and respect: He ordered his troops to attention, saluting General Robert E. Lee and the defeated South. With that bold stroke, planned behind the scenes by Lincoln of course, the President of the once again United States of America began the healing of a nation and its people.

7. Persist without exception.

Nelson Mandela sought to transform a country filled with racial divisions and oppression into an open democracy. His real qualities of forgiveness, patience and persistence were revealed to the world only after he was released from prison. He served a twenty-seven year sentence for leading a non-violent strike and for his involvement in the African national Congress’ resistance against the ruling National Party’s apartheid policy.

In Mastering the Seven Decisions, Andy Andrews aims to prove that everything you do matters, not just for you, your family, your business, and our country today, but for generations to come.

Andrews says that those people, including himself, who accomplish their goals by working all seven decision do so through intense focus, hard work, and determination to succeed. But the pay-off is worthwhile. When you begin to use these seven decisions, you stop blindly following the pack and gain the opportunity to develop the individual personal habits and practices that lead to success in whatever you do, so you can have fun, invest meaningful time with the people you are with, and give generously to others.

This is a book that has landed in the TOP 20 of my FAVORITES!

Wasted Life


Ephesians 5:16-17 "Making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is." - ESV

First let me say, there is nothing wrong with sitting in a Lazyboy and watching a little TV from time to time. BUT, if most every day after work you plop down infront of the"one-eyed-mnonster" until bed time, you're living a wasted life.

Again, on occassion that can be just the thing you need to relax from a long hard stressful day at work!

You can take or leave this blog entry, but can I just challenge you to a new thought? If there are things you'd like to have different in your life; your marriage, your relationship with kids, your income, etc. Maybe turning the TV off and reading, or spending time with spouse and/or with your children could make the difference to improve those things.

"If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always gotten." - unknown

Bottome line: You do not want to wind up like the guy in the picture above ... you have so much more to offer yourself, your family and God! He put you here on earth for more than that!

Who is Right?


This is the question I get most often not only from secularist, or people who do not claim any kind of belief or faith in God, but also "religious" people; "so, who's right?" they say. And what they are referring to is; what religion is right? What is THE WAY to God?

That's a great question! I recently had a person, who I would call a Universalist (he believes ALL roads lead to God) tell me that he believes there are "many ways to God" and there is no "one way."

Though many would call me a Conservative, there are just as many who call me a Liberal; it all depends where you land personally and in how you see me and others. I like to consider myself a Moderate, or a person who is balanced, or centered. I like to be compassionate and sympathetic to others beliefs, ideologies, philosophies, experiences, faiths, heritage, religion, etc. I teach and preach from what I know and believe to be true - and that is the Jesus of the Bible... BUT that shouldn't mean we can't LOVE EACH OTHER and GET ALONG. Right?

I can hear you saying, "but Timmy what that means is that you secretly believe that what others believe is wrong, and you are right?" Don't we all? Ha Ha! I mean seriously, let's be honest with ourselves! But in reality what I believe to be true does not make ME right, but God's plan for saving humanity right, and I just believe what He said He did, He did. It's not anything that I've done or can boast about doing ... I haven't saved anyone, Jesus is the one who did it, not me. So I don't consider it prideful or arrogant or narrow-minded to have stumbled onto the truth. That would be like saying that someone who stumbled onto mathematical truth was being prideful, arrogant or narrow-minded for discovering "mathematical truth" and then sharing those truths with others. The truth is the truth ... is it not? And wouldn't or shouldn't LOVE compel us to share that truth? In a loving, humble and gracious way? I think so.

Here is how I look at it, when we get to Heaven I really believe there are going to be people there that we would have guessed wouldn't be. I believe that God is more loving, gracious, kind and forgiving then any Fundamental Christian out there! Trust me, there are NOT only going to be Southern Baptists in Heaven, despite what they may think! Maybe they're the ones who won't be there? Lol!

But I would challenge us all with this scripture: Proverbs 22:2

New International Version (©1984)
"All a man's ways seem right to him, but the LORD weighs the heart."

New Living Translation (©2007)
"People may be right in their own eyes, but the LORD examines their heart."

GOD'S WORD® Translation (©1995)
"A person thinks everything he does is right, but the LORD weighs hearts."

King James Bible
"Every way of a man is right in his own eyes: but the LORD pondereth the hearts."

Bible in Basic English
"Every way of a man seems right to himself, but the Lord is the tester of hearts."

WHAT DO YOU SAY?

You're Not Helping Pat


I just read what Pat Robertson said about the tragic events in Haiti ... and I don't know what to say but, "ZIP IT PAT! Please, for the sake of Christ - You're not helping! Your words are like daggers into the hearts of those who are down."

I feel the same as Jim Wallis, a prominent progressive Christian leader, who said, "As a Christian leader, I have had to spend too much of my time trying to overcome an image of Christianity that was created by the likes of Pat Robertson," he wrote. "When evil strikes, it's easy to ask, where is God. The answer: God is suffering in the midst of the evil with those who are suffering."

This kind of stuff is what drives people far far away from Christ ... when we Christians open our silly mouths and spew stupid stuff... especially at a time like this... these people need our prayers, and our help!

I heard someone say that "what Pat said is actually factual...", and my thought there is then his timing is WAY OFF! It would be like walking up to the scene of an accident and telling the bloodied victim in the car crash, "your hair is messed up!" Just not a good time to share that, even if it's true. So in my estimation he is wrong on all fronts here!

Colossians 4:6 "Let your conversation be gracious and attractive so that you will have the right response for everyone." - NLT

Again, as with anything I say here on my blog - it is just MY OPINION and we are all entitled to one!

2010 Hanky Panky Challenge

Anytime you use the word “Hanky Panky” it means one thing for the guys and for the girls it may mean yet another … so let this be your guide … we are encouraging couples to take the month of February,the love month, to focus on their marriage by creating moments of intentional intimacy, which we are referring to as “hanky panky” with each another everyday. This means making time to connect, whether that is pure sexual intimacy (intercourse) which most dudes are probably hoping (praying) for – you are welcome guys!, or lots of kissing, touching, tickling, massages, foot rubs, bubble baths together, washing each others hair, pillow talks, praying together (for each other and your family), read the Song of Songs, try reading a romantic book together, watch Dr. Phil – sorry, just kidding … watch a romantic movie (not Texas Chainsaw, or Saw I, II or III), cook dinner together, talk a walk together, write a meaningful note to one another and read aloud, go on a romantic date … basically go back to what you did when you first met and fell so madly in love with each other! Crazy how just a few years of marriage and we forget all that stuff.


Side note here; many times this is what I see failing in marriages; everything that I have mentioned above stops after a year of marriage. Simply, we take each other for granted, we are too busy (or we feel we are too busy). Yet when I talk to couples about their schedule I see that there are many opportunities in their “busy schedule” for intimacy, but it’s filled up with TV, Sports, Hobbies, Kids stuff (nothing wrong with that, but honestly how many activities do your kids really need to be in? I mean seriously! Is it worth losing your marriage over? Not a win for your kids if you ask me! The best gift you can give your kids is a healthy marriage!)

So again, we are CHALLENGING you (if you are married) to engage in HANKY PANKY everyday for the entire month of February!

Every year we get phone calls from ANGRY RELIGIOUS people who get their panties all in a wade over the Hanky Panky Challenge, and I can only guess that their sex life is really lame (maybe not ... plus my wife just told me that was judgmental to say, so I take it back)… so here is our official “disclaimer” below.

DISCLAIMER: This challenge is only for those who are in a committed relationship (which we here at Mercy Church would consider that to be those who are married.) Yes you can be in a committed relationship and not have the piece of paper from the government, but let’s just be real honest here … the “paper” is a BIG deal, hence the reason so many people are scared to get that little “piece of paper”, because it’s a HUGE COMMITMENT.

CHALLENGE FOR SINGLES: Only NON-SEXUAL Hanky Panky for the month of February! I mean come on; this would only help to deepen your emotional relationship anyway! Seriously, get to know one another without touching tee tees. Ladies, if your guy isn’t willing to take this challenge I would seriously reconsider him as a person you would want to spend your life with, I am not joking actually. And guys, if she can’t hold off for 28 days, then marry her … TODAY! Ha ha!

Happy Hanky Panky!

Alone in a Crowd


Matthew 28:20b "... And be sure of this: I am with you always, even to the end of the age."

There are times in all our lives we feel alone. I have discovered a few things that really help overcome those feelings.

1) Don't be ALONE- Allow good close friends and family to share in your victories and defeats. It's a crazy thing, but the more we "feel alone" the more we want (so we think) to be alone. Feelings are fickle and should not be what we use to guide our steps.

2) THINK positive - Regardless of what some negative people say; our thoughts do make a huge difference in our mood. Paul tells us in Philippians 4 to "think on things that are true ... good..." And Proverbs tells us that a "... merry heart is like a medicine..."

3) TALK positive - Going alone with the thought above; what we TALK about, often becomes what we THINK about ... and our words to others, about others and about ourselves are crucial to our well being.

4) KNOW that God is with you - This is one of the biggest forgotten themes of the whole Christmas Story ... God came to earth to be WITH US ... we are NOT ALONE.

5) TRUST that God is working on your behalf - Many times loneliness comes as a result of feeling hopeless, or helpless ... which comes as a result of hard times. I have spoken to more people in the last year experiencing these feelings than ever before in my 20 years of ministry. But we must all have FAITH in God's ability to work in and through us in difficult times.

6) PRAY - this should be #1, and understood as the first thing we should do when feeling anything other than great ... God is a God who listens, cares and does act. Talk to Him!

Also, just know that you are a person that God loves, and He created you for a purpose!