Swinging Couples Question

I recently ran into an old high school buddy who told me that he and his wife were Swingers -- maybe I should have mentioned I was a pastor sooner into the conversation :)

I have had, over the years, married couples sincerely ask me, "Is it okay to Swing with other couples, if we both are okay with it?"

I would imagine most of you know what a Swinger is, or does? But just in case let me briefly explain; a Swinger Couple is basically a couple that engages in sexual activity with other couples. Swingers say, "it's open and honest therefore it's okay".

MY RESPONSE

Just because a couple "agrees" to something doesn't make it right when there is a higher authority saying it's wrong. For example, if your friend says, "please shoot me in the head, I want to die." Even though you two have agreed doesn't make murdering him okay. In a marriage a husband is only for his wife and a wife is only for her husband. No exceptions! Murder is murder, just as adultery is adultery ... Swinger Couples are actually having affairs, they're just committing open affairs that the couple agrees to have. Affairs are destructive to a marriage, even open affairs that are agreed upon.

Mark 10:6-9 “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

In reading some information about why couple become Swingers, it's typically in an effort to spice up the sex life, to be creative and do something different. There are many ways to spice up the sex life within a marriage without having an affair. I hope to cover some of those topics over the next few weeks.

TOMORROW'S NOTE:

Sex Toys, Okay or Not Okay? I think you may be surprised by my answer!