Easy Rider

I am a firm believer that life is what you make it. And even so, it’s not always easy, enjoyable and/or fair. But still it (life) is what you make it… and it is what it is… and here is why I believe this… it’s not what happens to you that matters, but what you do with what happens to you.

Many times we blame our sourness on not-so-happy circumstances that surround us… not making enough money, spouse doesn’t make me happy, kids are driving me crazy, I hate my job, I drive a piece of junk, don’t like my neighborhood, my friends, etc. Grumble, grumble!

Okay, so now you have a choice…continue to grumble about what isn’t going the way you would like…and do nothing to change it. Or, you can quit grumbling about what isn’t going right, and begin to make the necessary changes to get you where you ultimately want to be… and just accept the things that are out of your control. Now, here is where we must be careful and ask; where does God want me to be? Too many times we run after what WE want, and we lose the most important things.

Yet another thing is that we must own up to the circumstances we find ourselves in because of the choices we’ve made to put us there. My parents used to tell me, “You made your bed, now you must lay in it”.

What I am saying is that when you do “lay in the bed you’ve made” you can enjoy it… and be happy!

There is a grid to run all decisions through:

1) Is this good for my relationship with God?
2) Is this good for my relationship with my spouse?
3) Is this good for my relationship with my kids?
4) Is this good for my carreer?