Porn

I will be the first to admit that I work hard to keep myself sexually pure. I, like many men, want to see women naked. That is a desire I did not ask for, but I got it and became aware of it as a young boy.

Dictionary:

lust /lʌst/ –noun 1. intense sexual desire or appetite. 2. uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite.



I believe the key word in the definition for lust is "uncontrolled". I know if I left my mind to think what it wants, or my body to do what it wants... I am in trouble! If you are married, keep your lust controlled and directed toward your spouse. Some people think you shouldn't lust for your spouse, I disagree. Personally, I want Jana to lust after me, and she wants me to lust for her. Maybe a better word for lust in that context would be "WANT".

The REAL DANGER in Porn is... 2 things:

1) You are LUSTING for someone, adn something you can not have.
2) It's setting you up to be disappointed in your current reality!

Porn is NOT real life! I've heard many interviews with porn stars... and they all say, "we are acting. Our sex lives off stage are nothing like that."

And frankly if you believe sex is supposed to be like what you see in a porn movie, or picture... you are going to be disappointed in a big way. Don't get me wrong, sex is what you make it, and a couple must explore, create, dress up, innovate, give, enjoy, lavish, have fun, try new things, etc. But porn gives you a false sense of what to expect and I've seen it create much frustration in marriage.

Matthew 5:27-28 "You have heard the commandment that says, ‘You must not commit adultery. But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart."



James 1:14-16 "Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death. So don’t be misled, my dear brothers and sisters."

Romans 8:6 "So letting your sinful nature control your mind leads to death. But letting the Spirit control your mind leads to life and peace."