WHAT IS CUFFING SEASON

Q: What is "Cuffing Season"?

A: According to most lifestyle writers, it’s the time of the year when the weather starts to turn cold and single people begin the active search for romantic partners in the hope of having someone with whom to ride out the colder, snowier, bleaker months. Typically those months run from October through March—though as always with such things, your mileage may vary—but the season is generally regarded as culminating with Valentine’s Day.

I do get the concept. I think it comes from some people wanting to share the holidays with someone rather than be alone. You know, having someone to attend Holiday Parties with, go Shopping with, someone to give gifts to, and get gifts from, etc. I can only assume this is because we as humans don't like being alone, or we just genuinely enjoy the company of others, especially during the Holiday Season. I mean on one hand it would make most anyone sad at the thought of spending Christmas Day alone, but is it really something to be sad about? I don't think so. I thoroughly enjoy female companionship, but am also fine just being with me. I think that anyone that says (sometimes a little bitterly), "I prefer to be alone!" isn't being honest. Because if that was 100% true then you wouldn't be in this Singles Group, or engaged in online dating websites, or reading this post. Ha ha! I will admit I prefer to be partnered, but do prefer to be alone to being with the wrong person.
In my little opinion I feel that it's important to ward off any bitterness we carry around such topics. I find it extremely unattractive when people engage in "Anti-Valentine's Day" events and the like. To each their own, but I personally don't like the sentiment at all.

HOW TO KNOW IF WE'RE BITTER

- How do we feel when one of our single friends winds up in a relationship?

Are you really happy for them? Or are you cynical and say things like, "Oh it'll never work out." or "We'll see how long this lasts, I give it 3 weeks." Bla bla bla bitterness, bitterness, bitterness!

- How do we feel when we see couples holding hands, or kissing or enjoying time together?

Does it touch our hearts and make us excited at the possibility of being in that situation at some point? Does it give us hope? Or do we laugh and have the thought, "he's probably sleeping with her best friend, she just doesn't know it yet!"

- Can you still watch Romantic Movies?

Do you enjoy them and do they inspire you and make you long for love? Or can you not stand all the lovey stuff and find it repelling and cheesy?

I think you get the point here. Our emotional response tells a lot about where we are in our journey of self discovery. No judgment wherever you may be. I think we've all experienced all of these emotions at different times in our life. But I would encourage you to look within, and see if there might be some work left to do on yourself to prepare yourself for True Love. Bitterness is a Love Killer for sure! I personally came face to face with this as I am a Wedding Officiant. Ha ha ... I celebrate LOVE for a living, and I adore it and find it fills me with so much hope!

I hear stories every single day from young in-love couples, and it just fills my heart with so much excitement for what is to come.

Hear all the ways couple's meet these days, here are a few of the stories I have heard, enjoy! (All stories are absolutely true!)

- Bumble.
- Tinder.
- Match.
- Hinge.
- Craigslist (just kidding, not true!)
- I met her at a Strip Club, yes she's still a stripper, but we just found out she's pregnant, and can only strip for a few more months.
- A friend set us up.
- My parents introduced us.
- We met in high school.
- We met in elementary school.
- I was his boss.
- I was her boss.
- Speed dating event.
- We met at your mixer Timmy.
- We met in a Bowling League.
- We met playing pool.
- We met in Cancun.
- Matchmaker set us up.
- She approached me in a bar and asked me out.
- College.
- We met at a party.
- We met at a family reunion. No, we are not related.
- We met in the frozen food isle.
- The gym.
- Sporting event.
- Work.
- Church.

This one takes the cake though, "I rented a room from this guy, one night I got drunk and we slept together, and I never moved out, and eventually just moved into his room and I no longer had to pay rent!" I love that!

And so many more, but if you read through this list it's saying something isn't it? Do you see it? People meet when out living their lives. You do you, get out and live life and your person will eventually come your way, stay hope-filled!

Happy Cuffing Season!