WHY WE STRUGGLE TO CHANGE OR GROW

The reality is that every human on earth has be wronged, hurt, betrayed, given up on, cheated on, mistreated, cut short, fired, left, turned away from, abused in someway, whether emotionally, spiritually or physically. It’s a part of the human experience. The real question is; what do we do what that hurt?

When we continually play the victim in life we are unable to grow, because our faults are buried way beneath the victim role we are playing. It’s where we find sympathy from people, especially other victims. Holding a victim mentality undermines any growth we are attempting to create for ourselves. Therapy is a very helpful tool to help us discover the victimhood mentality that is undermining our hopes of getting to the life we both deserve and desire.

I know for me personally it took me a little while to crawl out of the bed of victimhood I was laying in. Where I was in my life was no one’s fault but my own. When I looked in the mirror, there I was. Victimhood feels cozy, and kinda warm and fuzzy because as a victim I took no real accountability for my own faults or shortcomings. It was easier to focus on how EVERYONE ELSE'S faults and shortcomings hurt me rather than looking at how MY FAULTS were hurting me. True freedom came when I owned my own sh*t, no longer playing the victim and deflecting MY ISSUES by blaming others for the hurt and pain THEY caused me. I am responsible for myself, 100%. I love the quote:

“It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.” - Epictetus

To begin your healing journey it’s critical to begin with forgiveness, letting go of past hurts and wrong doings and LOOK WITHIN, NOT WITHOUT to find what needs to change in order to become the man or woman you desire to become. Enjoy the journey.