I Turned 50 in Paris

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I turned 50 on April 14th, then two days later I spent the day in Paris.

I woke up on my birthday and had these thoughts and wanted to share it with you, enjoy!

THOUGHTS FROM A 50 YEAR OLD

Today is my 50th Birthday, I honestly can’t believe it! I don’t feel 50, I definitely don’t act 50 and hopefully I never look 50, ha ha! 50 years of life has taught me a few lessons no doubt!

I wish I could say that what I’ve learned came from all my successes and good decisions, but the truth is I’ve learned most my lessons from hardships, struggles and bad choices.

50 Things I’ve Learned: (This is my list, your list will be different)

1) Life is what you make it for the most part.

Meaning, many of our problems WE CAUSE by poor decisions, just as good decisions make life better. i.e. Eating right and regular exercise leads to better health typically, and Twinkies, Ding Dongs and fast food lead to poor health typically. This is true when it comes to every area of life ... career, relationships, etc etc.

2) You never can go wrong with Love & Kindness.

3) Religion is not all that great, but faith is.

4) Wash your face daily, and moisturize.

5) Drink a shit-ton of water daily.

6) Enjoy a good Wine, Beer or Whisky ever so often.

7) Try Marijuana (if you live in a legal state).

8) Travel as much as possible.

9) Live simple.

10) Dress with style.

11) Exercise daily.

12) Be quick to apologize and forgive.

13) Be positive.

14) Love your family like crazy.

15) Don't judge.

16) See the beauty in everything and everyone.

17) Don't spend more $ than you earn.

18) Give 10% away to charity.

19) With any deal find a Win Win.

20) Help others reach their dreams.

21) Don't be a shitty person, ever.

22) Be a lover.

23) Don't waste your life watching too much TV, but rather get out and live life.

24) Cry when you feel like it.

25) Be vulnerable.

26) Have a healthy sex life with your partner.

27) Laugh at yourself and others.

28) Read. Read. Read.

29) Be teachable.

30) Have some great friends, they are the spice of life.

31) Have no regrets.

32) Don't let your past define you, write your own story.

33) Live with passion.

34) Don't ever give up on your dreams.

"Just keep swimming!"

Clip: www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Hkn-LSh7es

35) Smile.

36) Skip rather than walk down the street.

37) Give lots of compliments.

38) Do the things that bring you joy.

39) Get at least (1) tattoo.

40) Don't let fear dictate your decisions.

41) Try new things.

42) Learn a foreign language.

43) Learn to play an instrument.

44) Find your tribe.

45) Find a job you love so you can enjoy going to work each day.

46) Create.

47) Paint.

48) Watch good movies.

49) Swim in the Ocean.

50) Take time each day to Dream and Think.

Life Is Awesome, But It Also Sucks

Life Is Awesome

Life Is Awesome

I find myself becoming more and more reflective as the years go by. Now that I am 49, almost 50, I am aware that I am in fact middle-aged now. That’s weird to even hear myself say, “middle-aged”. Part of me likes being middle-aged, and another part of me doesn’t like it at all. I mean seriously, who wants to consider their life half over? No one! And I for sure don’t.

I have also realized I am attending more funerals in the last 10 years than I ever have before, that sucks. But I know people die. We all will die one day. Dreams die. Things come to an end. But also things are being born. New dreams come alive. Life is awesome, but it also sucks sometimes.

What is my point? Life is a journey, it has it’s ups and it’s downs. It’s unpredictable at times, but it is also beautiful. Enjoy every moment. The good, the bad and even the ugly. We can learn from it all, if we’ll allow ourselves to. You got this!

Speak Your Partner's Love Language

One of the biggest challenges in any relationship is speaking your partner's love language. If you have never heard of that before let me introduce you to a book that impacted my marriage in a significant way. But before I do that, let me just give you a little explanation on the subject of Love Language.

Okay, so the premise of the book, though it's been many years since I read it, is that we all have a primary love language and why this is important to know is because we feel LOVED MOST when someone is speaking OUR particular love language. 

The 5 Love Languages

  1. Physical Touch
  2. Quality Time
  3. Acts of Service
  4. Words of Affirmation
  5. Receiving Gifts

The Problem

We typically speak to our partner in our love language, but if that isn't their love language then they won't feel the love from it like we do when it is given to us. For example if your love language is "Receiving Gifts" than you won't feel as loved if I am giving you "Words of Affirmation." You will feel loved if I bring you a gift. Make sense?

This is how and why a couple can be in a pretty good relationship, but be lacking in feeling fulfilled and loved. Typically this is because the wrong love language is being spoken and your partner doesn't speak that language, so they do not understand or feel loved.

Bottom Line

Find out what Language your partner speaks, speak it! 

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. You can also take the test to verify your love language. Make sure to have your partner take the test too, then make sure you are speaking the right love language to them so they feel loved.

Counseling

If you and/or your partner ever need to set up a session, just shoot me an email: timmy@timmygibson.com