Too Busy

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I normally blog every week, but not lately! I have been "too busy" and have not taken the time to say anything, other than little 140 character tweets! Follow me if you'd like @TimmyKC. I actually had some friends message me and say, "Timmy I miss reading your blog posts ... please start blogging again!" I really appreciate that! And I will, just let me get through Easter and I will be BACK to blogging!

On another note, I said I was going to only blog on Relationship Topics, well I guess I lied, because I just can't do that. Ha ha! I have too many things to say about too many topics to limit my self to only blogging on Relationship Issues. Now, granted that may be most of my topic content, but not all!

Peace, have a great Easter ... talk to you next week!

Fight Fair

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All couples, who live together, fight! It's normal and even healthy to fight ... what matters is HOW you fight. Just like in a Boxing Match there are rules, or guidelines that both opponents much abide by ... a rule book for How to Fight Fair is what every couple needs

There are some staple rules, but the rules will vary with each individual depending on their background, personality, and temperament.

Rules for everyone:

1)      No screaming!

2)      No name-calling!

3)      No hitting!

4)      No throwing things!

5)      Leave your gloves on at all times!

It’s important to remember that when fighting (just a side note if you are in a brand new relationship and you are thinking; “like oh my gosh, we never ever fight … its all love, hugs and kisses.” Trust me, give it a few weeks, maybe a few months, you’ll be fighting! Ha ha! Can I hear an amen somebody! Okay, so when you fight it’s important to be thinking WIN WIN. Remember, you are on the same team. It’s not about winning the argument, or putting them in their place. It’s about coming to an agreement that works for you and your partner! Too many times when we are fighting we are thinking in our mind, “I am going to set them straight, or get them to understand me.” And the problem is that your partner is typically thinking the same thing … when you BOTH should be SEEKING to understand each other rather than be UNDERSTOOD.

We fight, or should fight, to RESOLVE issues, not to bash each other!

Let’s just be real here; no two people are exactly alike, and that means there are going to be times in the relationship that you do not see eye to eye, and that is okay! Totally okay! And you can actually even have a wonderful relationship without agreeing, or seeing eye to eye on every single issue. Now, you must come to an understanding or some common ground, but you can be an individual with thoughts of your own!

Happy fighting!  

My First Marathon

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KANSAS CITY MARATHON
October 20, 2012

I have run maybe a total of 5 miles over the last 4 years, and that's combining all miles run. But I have always loved a challenge, so that is what has led me to start training for my first marathon at age 42. I am not really sure what is so exciting about running 26.2 miles! Maybe it's the little running shorts I will get to wear for the first time. The short I have made fun of people wearing for years, now I am going to be 'that guy!' Help me Jesus!

I have thought of running in a marathon on many occasions, but not seriously until I was having a cup of coffee with a friend from church and he mentioned planning to run in the Kansas City Marathon. I thought, "I could do that ... I should do that ... I will do that!" It took me a day to really make sure I could and would commit. (I like to under commit and over deliver.)

So today I woke up and thought, "I better start 'training' for this marathon if I am going to finish it."

TRAINING DAY ONE: I ran 2.0 Miles in just under 20 minutes! And I felt good, I could have gone another mile, I think. I know that that's slow ... but it's a start.

Blessed to Bless

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I have heard it said a thousand times, plus one, "We are Blessed to Bless others! Give, share, and help others, etc." This is the way, especially as a Christ Follower (Christian), we should live. But it wasn't until this morning that it hit me right square in the face and I understood it completely. OUR (YOUR) LIFE REALLY DOES MATTER! We are here to make a difference in whatever way we can. Small or big, it doesn't matter ... just do what you can, when you can for who you can!

I realized this morning that God blesses us for many different reasons. Sometimes it may be for our own benefit or pleasure, but many more times I thinks it's so we can be a blessing to others. And let's just be straight here, sometimes we are obedient to what God is asking of us, sometimes we are not. So for every story I have for you where I have obeyed, I have another story when I missed it, so lest I be elevated in your eyes!

We live in a nice home, it's nice but modest ... there are smaller and there are bigger ... it's relative I suppose. It is a 4 bedroom, 3 1/2 baths, with a 2 car garage. We live in a neighborhood and our house is one of 5 models ... so every 5th house looks a lot like ours. I could spit from my porch and hit my next door neighbor's house, or come real close (I can spit pretty good!). We live less than a mile from where our kids go to school. We are blessed!

There have been times I thought we ought to downsize, "we don't need all this space" I'd grumble to my wife. But about that time we'd have a friend or family member who has hit a rough patch in life and we've been able to help them by giving them a place to stay along with moral support. Our 4th bedroom is currently refuge to a single mother and her two children. We are blessed to bless!

  • Because God has blessed us with a house with a "Guest Room" we could help a family in need.

  • Because God has blessed our marriage, we have been able to help others with their marriage.

  • Because God has blessed us with health, we can work.

  • Because God has blessed us with wisdom, we teach.

  • Because God has blessed us with friends, we can be a friend.

  • Because God has given us people to help us through the years, we now help others.

I have come to believe that whatever we have, or whatever we do, who we are, and whatever talent we may have been given is for the purpose of HELPING and SERVING others. Let's not live selfish small lives! Let's live like Jesus lived ... Matthew 20:28 "...just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many."