The Hanky Panky Challenge
is for those who are in a committed relationship to help them create, daily, moments of intimacy. What I refer to as “Hanky Panky” every day for the entire month of February (28 Days).
Now, I looked up the definition of “hanky panky” and it was not the definition
I was hoping for … so I thought I should give you my definition of "hanky
WHAT IS THE HANKY PANKY
Here is what I have
learned over the years of issuing this "Hanky Panky Challenge" to
couples. For the guys it means one thing, and for the girls it’s another,
so let this blog be your guide to what it is supposed to mean to both.
I am encouraging those in
a committed relationship to take the month of February and focus on their
relationship by creating moments of intentional intimacy
“hanky panky” with each other every day, a total of 28 days. Let’s be
honest, it's a challenge in itself just taking the time to connect every
day! Hanky Panky is really about making your relationship a priority, not
an afterthought. So whether you connect purely for physical intimacy (intercourse - hopefully no diagrams are
needed here) which most dudes are probably hoping for, OR lots of other
relationship building activities, such as, but not limited to:
5. Foot rubs.
6. Bubble baths together.
7. Listening to Kenny-G or Usher, etc. (whichever you prefer!)
8. Washing each other’s hair.
9. Comb each other’s hair. (If you like that!)
10. Pillow talk.
11. Praying together.
12. Read romantic book.
13. Watch Dr. Phil – sorry, just kidding!
14.Watching a romantic movie. (not Texas Chainsaw, ESPN, or Sports Center!)
15. Cooking dinner together. (Tip: Dude, wash the dishes!)
16. Long talks.
17. Long walks.
18. Write a meaningful note to one another and read
19. Write a song and sing to each other.
20. Share a bottle of *Wine while talking (Do this naked, and don’t touch for an hour,
so fun!)(*Tea, Coffee or whatever is good to you!)
21. Go on a romantic date. (Do what you did to capture her heart, and do those things again to
keep her heart)
Side Note: Many times this is what I see missing in
people's relationship; everything that I have mentioned above is forgotten or
even completely absent after a year or so of being together (I find this especially true in marriages.) Simply,
we take each other for granted, we are too busy (or we feel we are too busy) to
make real time for building and working on our relationship. Yet when I talk to
couples about their schedule I see that there are many opportunities in their
“busy schedule” for intimacy, but it’s filled up with TV, Sports, Hobbies, Kids
stuff, friends, facebook, and just a lot of busy-stuff.
Another side note that goes along with the 1st Side
Note: I have had couple after
couple confess to me that they have not taken a vacation in years, if ever.
That is just wrong. There is no excuse for that! The typical excuse I hear is,
“we don’t have the money.” And while I can appreciate and even sympathize with
that sentiment, its total crap. Really! Of course they say this while sipping
their $5 Pumpkin-spice Latte! Here is why I know it’s crap; we aren’t big
income earners and yet we go on vacation every year since we married 20 years
ago. When we first married we were poor (poor
in the sense of having little or no money at the end of each month – our
combined monthly income as $1,500 a month!) And we still made it a priority
to take a week-long vacation. It was and is a commitment we make every year,
and it’s nonnegotiable.
The second excuse I
hear, “we have small kids … they don’t
travel well, etc!” This one really makes me laugh, because that tells me
who rules the roost in their home – the kids! We were told when we had our first
child, “Don’t let your kids run your
life, you run their life! They will adapt to your-alls life.” That was and
is great wisdom. Our kids have been going to the beach since birth, they love
it, and they love the family time too. We are making memories with our kids and
each other. I can promise you this; you will not get to the end of your life
and wish, “man I wish we wouldn’t have
taken those family vacations! We should have just spent that money on
So there it is, the
Hanky Panky Challenge ... a Challenge that will lead to a better relationship! I
hope you take the challenge and commit to making your relationship a priority
for the entire month of February. Comment here on this post or on my facebook.com/timmygibson or facebook.com/mercychurchkc follow on twitter @TimmyKC... oh yea, by the way ... I promise at the end
of the 28 days your relationship will be better!
Happy Hanky Panky!
I want to accomplish one thing in my life, besides being a great husband, a great father and having a great head of hair! And that one thing is to help people have healthier happier relationships!